Bereavement support
Oakhaven wellbeing
"I found help in finding ‘new normal’ life after the death of my husband."
Guidance and support for those who have lost a loved one
Bereavement support at Oakhaven
If you are living with a loss you are very welcome to drop in to the Coates Centre at any time. We are open Monday to Friday from 10am to 4pm and our trained volunteers are here for you, to chat with you over a cuppa and to listen. You are welcome to bring a friend or family member. You do not need a referral from a health professional to come along.
We appreciate it may not be an easy decision to attend. We are here to support you.
Each month the team of staff and volunteers at Oakhaven Wellbeing organise a number of support groups and social activities at the Coates Centre in Lymington. Find full details here.
For more information, please contact us by email at wellbeing@oakhavenhospice.co.uk or call 01590 677198.
Oakhaven Wellbeing bereavement support available to all in our community
Bereavement Support Group
1st Wednesday of each month, drop-in 10:30-12:00
Connect with others who have experienced a loss and discover more about our bereavement support services over a cuppa. Our trained team are here to listen. You are welcome to bring a friend or family member.
Widowed Friendship Club
Regular socials and events
A social group run by widowed men and women. Coffee mornings, lunches, walks and outings, such as visits to the theatre - and a Fish and Chip supper on the fourth Friday each month. Meet and socialise with people who understand.
Cookery Classes
6-Week course
A cookery course for anyone bereaved who finds themselves having to prepare meals for the first time. Learn basic cooking skills alongside others in a friendly and safe environment, then enjoy together the meal your have created. Booking essential!
Signposting for bereavement support
Bereavement support for adults:
- Sue Ryder: Online bereavement support.
- Macmillan: Telephone: 0808 808 0000 (free from landlines and mobiles within the UK).
- Compassionate Friends: Specialist support for bereaved parents and their families. 0345 123 2304. helpline@tcf@org.uk.
- Samaritans: 116 123
- WAY Widowed and Young. For those widowed under 50 years old. WAY is the only national charity in the UK for people aged 50 or under when their partner died. It’s a peer-to-peer support group operating with a network of volunteers who have been bereaved at a young age themselves, so they understand exactly what other members are going through.
- WAY UP Widowed and Young Up. For those widowed aged 50 years and above.
- The Silver Line. Call free on 0800 470 8090. The Silver Line Helpline is a free, confidential telephone service just for older people. providing friendship, conversation and support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
- CRUSE Bereavement Care: telephone 0808 808 1677.
- The Jolly Dollies: a social network for widows.
- The Good Grief Trust: support and advice.
For private counselling visit the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Bereavement support for children and young people:
- Winstons Wish: the UK’s first childhood bereavement charity, supporting grieving children and young people since 1992. Winston's Wish provides specialist child bereavement support services across the UK, emotional and practical bereavement support to children, young people and those who care for them. Winston's Wish offers one-off and ongoing bereavement support and also provides online resources, specialist publications and training for professionals. Free helpline: 08088 020021 (open Monday to Friday, 8 am - 8 pm)
- Grief Encounter: national specialist children’s bereavement service. Free helpline: 0808 802 0111 for immediate support (open weekdays 9 am to 9 pm)
- Simon Says: Hampshire-based charity, working with children pre-bereavement and in bereavement.
- Mosaic: Dorset-based charity, specialising in child bereavement including loss through suicide, murder and illness.
- Child bereavement UK: provides confidential support, information and guidance to individuals, families and professionals throughout the UK. The support team is available to respond to calls, Live Chat and email from 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday, except Bank Holidays. Telephone: 0800 028 8840.
For private counselling visit the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy.
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